Question: My child is getting bad grades. What can I do? How should I educate my child well?

Answer: This is the question all the parents care about most. In order to improve their children’s grades, many parents look for different cram schools for them, hire private tutors, and even quit their jobs to accompany their children for study, etc.. Seeing their children’s grades are not good, the parents become very worried and then continue to improve their grades by every means possible. But most of them fail to achieve a good result. Even sometimes the children start to have the reverse psychology. For example, the children are sick and tired of studying, there is some distance between the children and parents and so on. So many parents fret about it.
Actually, no matter how many methods the parents use to improve their children’s grades, their intention is to guarantee that their children can have a bright future. Let’s see how God talks about this aspect of truth. God says, “When one leaves one’s parents and becomes independent, the social conditions one faces, and the kind of work and career available to one are both decreed by fate and have nothing to do with one’s parents. Some people choose a good major in college and end up finding a satisfactory job after graduation, making a triumphant first stride in the journey of their lives. Some people learn and master many different skills and yet never find a job that suits them or find their position, much less have a career; at the outset of their life journey they find themselves thwarted at every turn, beset by troubles, their prospects dismal and their lives uncertain….Some people, despite not being very well educated, write books and achieve a measure of fame; some, though almost totally illiterate, make money in business and are thereby able to support themselves….Regardless of differences in ability, IQ, and willpower, people are all equal before fate, which makes no distinction between the great and the small, the high and the low, the exalted and the mean. What occupation one pursues, what one does for a living, and how much wealth one amasses in life are not decided by one’s parents, one’s talents, one’s efforts or one’s ambitions, but are predetermined by the Creator.” From God’s words, we all can see what occupation we will have and how our future will be are not completely decided by our knowledge and the parents’ efforts, but are controlled by God.

Then what attitude should the parents have towards their children’s education? God says, “Besides birth and childrearing, the parents’ responsibility in a child’s life is simply to provide him or her with a formal environment to grow up in, for nothing except the predestination of the Creator has a bearing on a person’s fate. No one can control what kind of future a person will have; it is predetermined long in advance, and not even one’s parents can change one’s fate….All people become mature in their own particular growing-up environments, then gradually, step by step, set off down their own roads in life, fulfill the destinies planned for them by the Creator, naturally, involuntarily entering the vast sea of humanity and assuming their own posts in life, where they begin to fulfill their responsibilities as created beings for the sake of the Creator’s predestination, for the sake of His sovereignty” It is obvious to see that the parents just provide an environment for their children to grow. Their responsibilities are to bring them up, try their best to pay for the children’s education and teach them to behave well. As for the marriage and future of their children, the parents don’t have the final say. If we know God’s sovereignty and believe everything arranged by God is most suitable for everyone, we won’t feel so much worried within. In addition, what we also can do is to bring the children before God, so that they can learn to obey God’s sovereignty in everything, walk the right path of human life and receive the final salvation from God. Just like Noah’s family, it is because Noah brought them before God that they could be saved together with him when God used the flood to destroy the world. This is God’s greatest blessing to them!